Find What You're Looking For

"yeah that is true hey, but the problem is am still searching for what I really want to do and im afraid I will not find it." - reader.

Discovering what you want to do in life is about discovering two things -

1. What you like

2. What you're good at

I mean I'd like to dangle in space and breathe oxygen through a tube and drive a space shuttle into foreign galaxies - but that probably ain't gonna happen; my math skills are in a swamp somewhere in the planet Xursies and I don't like aliens.

I'm good at smoking cigarettes and drinking Cosmopolitans - quite good in fact - but I don't actually want to make that my career (although some less than kind people have said I already do.)

It has to be a combination of the two. It's about discovering something that you're good at and that you like doing. And if you get down to the bones of it, they are one in the same thing.

A lot of discovering what you want to do - is about knowing yourself. You see how older people are so specific? They like things in a very certain way - the toast buttered with just that right amount, a house looking a particular way - because they, over the years, have gotten to know themselves.

When you're young, you don't know what makes you tick yet. You haven't had enough experiences in life. You haven't made enough mistakes. So it follows that you're not exactly sure who you are. Or therefore what you want to do in life. It's normal. It's what most people experience.

So part of the process of finding out what you want to do in life, is discovering who you are as a person. But don't panic, it's not a race. The goal is happiness, not anything else.

My mom did so many jobs throughout her life (one of which was getting to know herself) and at 40 she discovered what she'd always secretly known – she wanted to write books - and she became successful at it.


My dad did the same amount of jobs and at 50 he discovered he wanted to be an evolutionary biologist and he became successful at that too.

But they didn't wait around twiddling their thumbs while they waited. They lived. They really lived. They dreamed and planned and made mistakes and won battles. They got to know the world around them and the world inside them. And it worked. 

And right there the smack-bang-in-the-middle of it all  answer;

While you're waiting to discover what you want to do, get busy getting to know yourself, get busy enjoying life … and get busy doing exactly what you want to do now.


It sounds like a contradiction in terms (and slightly ironic), but there you have it. It's the undeniable blazing truth.

And its a double whammy because it takes the pressure off too right?


Do what you want to do now, whatever it is.  If you want to travel, or learn about planets at college, if you want to work in a bar because you like the music, if you want to have a romance or play with your dog – do it. Trust yourself, that as you live, you will discover who you are , and in turn will discover what you want to do. The trick is doing what you want to do now.


Because that is the only way you'll know what you want to do in your future.

The solution won't come to you overnight or in a dream. No magical being will come down from the heavens and tell you what your calling is – you have to go out there and find it – and you do that by living life. Enjoying living. Doing things you like now, things that interest you. Travelling, experiencing, getting into romances, getting out of romances, testing your parameters, skinny dipping, challenging yourself to experience new things – and most importantly, having fun with it.

The world is a very exciting place, there's a lot to see and do and experience – jump into it now – don't worry too much – because the truth will come out of you and the answer will come. If you let it.

Good luck xB